Dear Grace, what should I do if I fell for the wrong person?

Dear Grace,

What should I do if I fell for someone who is not right for me?

-E

(Note: I asked E why she thought the guy wasn’t right for her. She mentioned that they had completely different life experiences, values, and goals.)

Dear E,

In my opinion, the first thing you must do is to figure out whether he also feels the same about you. Does he like you too? Or is it only a one-sided thing?

If there aren’t mutual feelings between the two of you, I don’t see a point of trying to do anything. Move on and find someone else.

However, if he does like you as well, there are a few questions you need to truthfully answer yourself:

  1. How much of him, in his current state, are you able to accept?

This includes his values, decisions, behaviour, occupation, environment, people who he is associated with, family members, and so on.

  1. How much are you willing to compromise?

You’re not going to be able to have everything your way. But how far are you willing to adapt or accommodate to him?

  1. Are you both on the same page?

Even if your approaches are different, you must both be roughly on the same page. I would suggest making a list of goals or things that you want within the next 2-3 years and compare it with his list. If you’re both aiming for something completely different, it’s probably better to let each other go.

I know my answer is more on the rational side, but I don’t believe in simply following your heart. I would weigh the pros and cons before making a decision.

If you two really want to be together, sacrifices must be made. Whether you think it’s worth it or not really comes down to how much you value the other person. I wish you all the best!

-Grace

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